No. 1, No. 2 and No. 3

No. 1 is the wife.

No. 2 is the mistress, which I am.

No. 3 is the woman who now makes him happy as I, like No. 1, does not interest him anymore. This girl is now the woman you once were. Vibrant, exciting, no-emotional baggage, non-demanding etc. This is now the woman he lies for with you. This is the woman you want to be again but its too late as you’ve now became No. 1 in essence without knowing it.

You are now the woman who chose to be content with the very little time he wants to spend with you as he has just added one agenda on his list of family, work, friends, interest, No. 3 and No. 2. (in order).

I guess the question is “How can you be No. 3 while being No. 2?”

Published in: on May 27, 2007 at 10:14 pm  Comments (6)  

You don’t trust me..

Our biggest issue is TRUST.

I have to admit that I trust him less because I feel that if he can lie to his wife why can he not lie to me?

Why can he not lie about where he really is at night, or day, when he is not with me?

Why can he not lie about who he’s with?

Why can he not lie about flirting with others?

Why can he not lie about who is flirting with him?

He has been used to lying. I, a mistress, contributes to his being almost perfect with it and that is my issue. Is he also lying to me?

Published in: on May 27, 2007 at 9:26 am  Comments (8)  

Saving all my love for you

This is one of the first songs I knew was very applicable to me.. there are a lot more songs all-throughout our relationship that I compiled and will uploade here one of these days..

by: Whitney Houston

A few stolen moments is all that we share
You’ve got your family, and they need you there
Though I’ve tried to resist, being last on your list
But no other man’s gonna do
So I’m saving all my love for you

It’s not very easy, living all alone
My friends try and tell me, find a man of my own
But each time I try, I just break down and cry
Cause I’d rather be home feeling blue
So I’m saving all my love for you

You used to tell me we’d run away together
Love gives you the right to be free
You said be patient, just wait a little longer
But that’s just an old fantasy

I’ve got to get ready, just a few minutes more
Gonna get that old feeling when you walk through that door
Cause tonight is the night, for feeling alright
We’ll be making love the whole night through
So I’m saving all my love
Yes I’m saving all my love
Yes I’m saving all my love for you

No other woman, is gonna love you more
Cause tonight is the night, that I’m feeling alright
We’ll be making love the whole night through
So I’m saving all my love
Yeah I’m saving all my lovin
Yes I’m saving all my love for you
For you, for you

Published in: on May 26, 2007 at 9:29 am  Comments (1)  

I love you so much!

“I love you so much!” I once said to him, he replied by “Not too much”.

This is true. We mistresses should not love our partners too much. We should leave something for ourselves. So when the time comes that you and him must separate ways and call it quits even if it hurts it won’t hurt as much.

I love you! – That is enough.

Published in: on May 4, 2007 at 6:04 am  Leave a Comment  

To demand? or Not to demand?

We decided to part ways, again, when we realized that we are demanding to much from each other. That is, I wanted him to be emotionally responsible and Mr. Married Man wanted me to need him less.In a normal relationship, lovers have the right to demand.

In a normal relationship a man should be emotionally responsible. In a normal relationship a man cannot ask a woman to need him less. BUT normal is not the kind of relationship we have and these kinds of demands are not allowed. In the first place we should not demand from our married partner, we should know better. We may however stress our point why, in my case, need him to be emotionally responsible WHEN I need him to, but we should be ready for what ever his response may be.

Remember that wives demand and mistresses demand less.

Published in: on May 3, 2007 at 10:48 pm  Comments (1)  

Etiquette for Mistresses

Etiquette for Mistresses.. and what wives can learn from them     by: Julie Yap-Daza

Allow me to share to you the following etiquettes for us mistresses:

1) Mistress is not Mrs. Know you place.
No.2 is not No.1, and ne’er the twain shall meet. And they better not.

2) Even if he tells you he loves you more than his wife, don’t let that go to your head.
As a rule, men are liars.

3) Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine’s Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Holy Week and his birthday.
Mistresses are also called “holiday orphans,”…

4) Be friend his secretary but avoid all contact with his driver.
Unless your married man is carrying on with his secretary, she can be an invaluable asses in your relations or relationship with him-relations as in sex, relationship as in a working or living arrangement.

5) As tempting as it seems, don’t patronize the wife’s beauty parlor, jewelry shop, dress shop, or father confessor.


7) To be seen with him in public once is risky. The second time could be fatal to one of you. The third time is The End for both of you.
Love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden it’s supposed to be hidden.

8 ) Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults.
Sooner or later, some mistresses feel so loved that they begin to think f the wife as the other woman.

9) Mistresses are kept bu rich men. But a mistress who is a woman of substance and independent means is better. (Translation: Don’t ask him for money.)

10) Be discreet. (Make sure he is not the type to talk in his sleep.)
There is no fool like a fool in love.

11) Never travel together.
Accidents will always happen.

12) When he breaks a date, charge it to fate, not his fecklessness.

13) Wives have their own networks of spies and amigas. It is helpful for the mistress to have her own. A chaperone is not a good idea, however. (Chaperones are passe. Besides, they talk.)
Because of her position and location in the underground, the mistress is a lonely woman.

14) Mistresses don’t complain.
They shouldn’t. It’s the wives, according to their husbands, who are always complaining.”

15) Being No.2, the mistress tries harder.
At the end of the day (night), she goes home without him. Or he goes home without her with a higher value that when they met yesterday.

16) Send him home as soon as it becomes apparent that he’s overstaying.
What do men do after sex? According to conventional wisdom 10% smoke, 20% fall asleep, and 70% go home to the wife.

17) It is practical for a mistress to be linked to anther man, preferably her lover’s friend.
In the age of the liberated woman, who needs a chaperone? Ah, maybe not, but she needs a beard.

18) If he is a public man and you’re thinking of staging an accident of running into him, think: How many accidents can I pull off in one month?
Its womans nature to want to be loved and be seen as being loved.

19) Don’t make unnecessary enemies of his children.
If you listen to mistresses and their stories, the world is full of love and short on loving.

20) Remind him to pay for everything in cash – dinner, flowers, perfume, champagne, pearls, diamonds, a microwave oven, etc.
In God we trust but pay in cash you must.

21) Don’t use tears as a weapon. He’s probably had enough of that from the Mrs.
Wives nag. Wives cry. If only for that reason, a mistress doesn’t use tears to get what she wants.

22) Resist the urge to be found out.
For every action, the laws of nature decree an equal and opposite reaction.

23) Perish all thought that someday you’ll be No. 1
One should always be in love. That is the reason why one should never marry. – Oscar Wilde

24) Married men who keep mistresses don’t like surprises, as a rule.

25) A man with a mistress leads a double life, his mistress only half life. Cheer up! A career will make you whole.
Life in the modern world has put women on an equal footing with men. There is nothing a man can do that a woman cannot.

26) Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Evidence, evidence…!
Love is not love until it is expressed.

27) When in doubt, disappear.

28) When all else fails, leave him.
Some mistresses make it; more do not.

Now our question is: IF THERE WOULD BE A 29th RULE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?WHAT IS THE 29th ETIQUETTE SHOULD BE? (post your reply here)

– Thanks to Julie Yap-Daza and those stories they’ve shared in the book. Best Wishes!

Published in: on April 28, 2007 at 2:48 am  Comments (6)  

Is it love or lust?

When we started our relationship three (3) years ago I asked my self..

“Why am I in this relationship?” “Why am I a mistress?”

“Is it because of love or lust?”

I was introduced to Mr. Married Man by a friend and although I find him attractive and smart I also find him very weired. He does a funny laugh and wears an outdated accessory.

I grew attraction to him as I find him very easy to talk with until he casually dropped the bomb and said he is married and just had a kid.

I was surprised or more likely disappointed and ashamed, thinking I might just have a boyfriend in him, but I didn’t show any emotion so as not to imply I’m interested in him, a Married Man.

That might have been our last conversation because I chose to distance my self and brush off a budding feeling of attraction for him UNTIL we attended a party, had a couple of drinks, flirted, he pursued me and everything as they say is history.

We spend time together more often. We would talk and laugh endlessly. We would go to restaurants. We would exchange glances and say our hi’s, hello’s and goodbyes. All of these we do very discretely as we were surrounded by friends.

Our feelings grew stronger as we find that we compliment each other. We were like soul mates.

I have fallen in love with Mr. Married Man even it was was against my values and principles. It was not a relationship that I would even imagine to have wanted. I can’t explain it but it just happened. We can’t help it as we were like opposite magnet poles closing in together.

Then we finally did. When we both couldn’t resist it anymore after a few weeks of “dating” we locked lips together. That first kiss was the start of all passionate and intense kisses and more.

Needless to say we also compliment each other sexually.

Going back to the question “Is it because of love or lust?”

I’d say it is more LOVE than LUST, as lust is just incidental to love.

Published in: on April 27, 2007 at 5:18 pm  Comments (7)